{"id":463,"date":"2022-04-03T16:48:00","date_gmt":"2022-04-03T16:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/?p=463"},"modified":"2022-08-30T07:56:40","modified_gmt":"2022-08-30T07:56:40","slug":"ban-luan-ve-tinh-yeu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/2022\/04\/03\/ban-luan-ve-tinh-yeu\/","title":{"rendered":"B\u00e0n lu\u1eadn v\u1ec1 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau"},"content":{"rendered":"

B\u00c0N LU\u1eacN V\u1ec0 T\u00ccNH Y\u00caU<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u0110a ph\u1ea7n m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u00ec y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng c\u01a1n gi\u00f4ng l\u1ed1c b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd, \u0111\u1ebfn v\u00e0 \u0111i qu\u00e1 nhanh m\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng mang t\u00ednh ph\u00e1 ho\u1ea1i h\u01a1n l\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng. B\u1edfi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1ef1 th\u00e2n n\u00f3 lu\u00f4n bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 do \u0111\u00f3 k\u00e9m tin c\u1eady nh\u1ea5t.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gi\u1eefa vi\u1ec7c ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y v\u00e0 ch\u00fang ta h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t kho\u1ea3ng c\u00e1ch r\u1ea5t xa. \u0110i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y khi ta c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac y\u00eau v\u1edbi nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u v\u00f4 tri th\u01b0\u1eddng th\u1ec3 hi\u1ec7n r\u00f5. Ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y y\u00eau h\u1ed9i <\/a>ho\u1ea1, nh\u01b0ng ch\u01b0a ch\u1eafc ta \u0111\u00e3 l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn c\u1ed1ng hi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1eddi m\u00ecnh cho n\u00f3. Ta c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 c\u1ea3m th\u00edch vi\u1ec7c leo n\u00fai nh\u01b0ng ta cho r\u1eb1ng m\u00ecnh kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 \u0111\u1ee7 s\u1ee9c kho\u1ebb cho vi\u1ec7c \u0111\u00f3 v\u00ec th\u1ebf ta l\u1ef1a ch\u1ecdn ch\u1eb3ng leo n\u00fai l\u00e0m g\u00ec. V\u00ec v\u00f4 tri kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 ti\u1ebfng n\u00f3i \u0111\u1ec3 tr\u00e1ch m\u00f3c ta v\u00e0 c\u0169ng kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 b\u1ecf ch\u1ea1y, n\u00f3 v\u1eabn lu\u00f4n \u1edf \u0111\u00f3 \u0111\u1ec3 ch\u00fang ta c\u1ea3m th\u1ea5y y\u00eau ch\u00fang.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

T\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ef1 nh\u01b0 v\u1eady trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau con ng\u01b0\u1eddi. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi \u0111\u00e0n \u00f4ng c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 kh\u00f3c l\u00f3c b\u00ean b\u00e0n r\u01b0\u1ee3u sau khi ly h\u00f4n r\u1eb1ng anh ta \u0111\u00e3 y\u00eau v\u1ee3 anh ta th\u1ebf n\u00e0o, nh\u01b0ng tr\u01b0\u1edbc \u0111\u00f3 khi c\u00f2n trong h\u00f4n nh\u00e2n anh h\u1ebft l\u1ea7n n\u00e0y t\u1edbi l\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c l\u00e0m t\u1ed5n th\u01b0\u01a1ng v\u1ee3 b\u1edfi nh\u1eefng l\u1ea7n ngo\u1ea1i t\u00ecnh c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh. M\u1ed9t ng\u01b0\u1eddi m\u1eb9 c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 lu\u00f4n n\u00f3i r\u1eb1ng b\u00e0 y\u00eau con m\u00ecnh h\u1ebft m\u1ef1c, con c\u00e1i l\u00e0 l\u1ebd s\u1ed1ng. Tuy nhi\u00ean b\u00e0 ch\u01b0a bao gi\u1edd th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 l\u1eafng nghe con m\u00ecnh c\u00f3 nh\u1eefng suy ngh\u0129 v\u00e0 mong mu\u1ed1n g\u00ec, t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng g\u00ec con l\u00e0m ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 \u0111i\u1ec1u b\u00e0 mu\u1ed1n v\u00ec b\u00e0 cho r\u1eb1ng b\u00e0 bi\u1ebft \u0111i\u1ec1u g\u00ec l\u00e0 t\u1ed1t cho n\u00f3. Nh\u01b0ng con ng\u01b0\u1eddi th\u00ec h\u1eefu tri v\u00ec th\u1ebf vi\u1ec7c ch\u1ec9 y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng b\u1eb1ng c\u1ea3m x\u00fac m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111i k\u00e8m h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u00f3 t\u00ednh hu\u1ef7 ho\u1ea1i, kh\u00f4ng nhanh th\u00ec ch\u1eadm r\u00e3i.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

B\u1edfi v\u00ec \u201c t\u00ecm ch\u1ee9ng c\u1ee9 c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong nh\u1eefng c\u1ea3m gi\u00e1c c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh qu\u1ea3 l\u00e0 d\u1ec5 d\u00e0ng v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng l\u00e0m kh\u00f3 ch\u1ecbu ch\u00fat n\u00e0o. \u0110i t\u00ecm ch\u1ee9ng c\u1ee9 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau trong nh\u1eefng h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a m\u00ecnh m\u1edbi kh\u00f3 kh\u0103n v\u00e0 kh\u1ed5 c\u1ef1c.\ufffc\u201d(1)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Nhi\u1ec1u ng\u01b0\u1eddi s\u1ebd th\u1ea5y b\u1ea5t \u0111\u1ed3ng khi \u0111\u1ecdc t\u1edbi \u0111\u00e2y, h\u1ecd cho r\u1eb1ng t\u00ecnh y\u00eau, \u0111\u1eb7c bi\u1ec7t l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau nam n\u1eef m\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, s\u1ef1 say m\u00ea n\u1ed3ng nhi\u1ec7t th\u00ec ch\u1ea3 ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 y\u00eau. \u0110\u01b0\u01a1ng nhi\u00ean n\u1ebfu trong c\u00e1c h\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng c\u1ee7a y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u00ec c\u00e0ng t\u1ed1t, nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng c\u00f3 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac y\u00eau \u0111\u1ea5y th\u00ec c\u00f4ng vi\u1ec7c c\u1ee7a t\u00ecnh y\u00eau v\u1eabn ti\u1ebfp di\u1ec5n v\u00e0 ch\u1eafc ch\u1eafn s\u1ebd cho nh\u1eefng qu\u1ea3 ng\u1ecdt m\u00e1t l\u00e0nh h\u01a1n t\u1ea5t th\u1ea3y. \u201cTrong nh\u1eefng gam m\u00e0u c\u00e2m l\u1eb7ng, d\u1ed3n n\u00e9n c\u1ee7a Rembrandt(2) ng\u01b0\u1eddi ta v\u1eabn c\u00f3 th\u1ec3 th\u1ea5y m\u00e0u s\u1eafc, s\u1ef1 phong ph\u00fa \u0111\u1ed9c \u0111\u00e1o v\u00e0 \u00fd ngh\u0129a h\u01a1n r\u1ea5t nhi\u1ec1u \u201c. (3)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

H\u00e0nh \u0111\u1ed9ng v\u00e0 \u00fd ch\u00ed ch\u00fang ta y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ai \u0111\u00f3 ch\u00ednh l\u00e0 vi\u1ec7c ta t\u1ea1m d\u1eb9p b\u1ecf c\u00e1i t\u00f4i c\u00e1 nh\u00e2n, kh\u00f4ng qu\u1ea3n ng\u1ea1i kh\u00f3 s\u1eb5n l\u00f2ng d\u00e0nh s\u1ef1 quan t\u00e2m, l\u1eafng nghe, d\u1ea5n th\u00e2n ( \u0111\u00f4i khi c\u1ea7n li\u1ec1u l\u0129nh cho \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y), cam k\u1ebft v\u00e0 ch\u1ea5p nh\u1eadn s\u1ef1 kh\u00e1c bi\u1ec7t c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. V\u00e0 t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u n\u00e0y \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c c\u1ed1 g\u1eafng v\u1ea5t v\u1ea3 kh\u00f4ng th\u1ec3 tin n\u1ed5i, n\u00ean \u0111a ph\u1ea7n m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi h\u00e0i l\u00f2ng v\u1edbi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng t\u1ea1m th\u1eddi v\u00e0 r\u1eddi b\u1ecf khi kh\u00f4ng c\u00f2n c\u1ea3m x\u00fac, qua h\u1ebft l\u1ea7n n\u00e0y t\u1edbi l\u1ea7n kh\u00e1c ch\u1ec9 b\u1edfi n\u00f3 d\u1ec5 v\u00e0 kh\u00f4ng \u0111\u00f2i h\u1ecfi b\u1ea1n l\u00e0m g\u00ec nhi\u1ec1u, c\u1ed9ng th\u00eam vi\u1ec7c n\u00f3 kh\u00e1 vui n\u00ean kh\u00f3 c\u01b0\u1ee1ng n\u1eefa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cu\u1ed1i c\u00f9ng, trong t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 ta n\u1ed7 l\u1ef1c l\u00e0m t\u1ea5t c\u1ea3 nh\u1eefng \u0111i\u1ec1u tr\u00ean \u201cnh\u1eb1m m\u1ed9t m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch duy nh\u1ea5t l\u00e0 v\u00ec s\u1ef1 tr\u01b0\u1edfng th\u00e0nh tinh th\u1ea7n c\u1ee7a \u0111\u1ed1i ph\u01b0\u01a1ng. N\u1ebfu kh\u00f4ng ph\u1ea3i l\u00e0 t\u00ecnh y\u00eau th\u1ef1c s\u1ef1 th\u00ec m\u1ee5c \u0111\u00edch lu\u00f4n l\u00e0 c\u00e1i g\u00ec \u0111\u00f3 kh\u00e1c.\u201c (4)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Mi\u1ec1n H\u1ea3i \u0110\u0103ng<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u0110a ph\u1ea7n m\u1ecdi ng\u01b0\u1eddi nh\u1ea7m l\u1eabn y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng l\u00e0 m\u1ed9t c\u1ea3m x\u00fac. Nh\u01b0ng n\u1ebfu y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng ch\u1ec9 \u0111\u01a1n thu\u1ea7n l\u00e0 c\u1ea3m x\u00fac th\u00ec y\u00eau th\u01b0\u01a1ng c\u0169ng nh\u01b0 nh\u1eefng c\u01a1n gi\u00f4ng l\u1ed1c b\u1ea5t ng\u1edd, \u0111\u1ebfn v\u00e0 \u0111i qu\u00e1 nhanh m\u00e0 th\u01b0\u1eddng mang t\u00ednh ph\u00e1 ho\u1ea1i h\u01a1n l\u00e0 x\u00e2y d\u1ef1ng. B\u1edfi c\u1ea3m x\u00fac t\u1ef1 th\u00e2n n\u00f3 lu\u00f4n bi\u1ebfn \u0111\u1ed5i v\u00e0 do \u0111\u00f3 k\u00e9m tin c\u1eady nh\u1ea5t.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":464,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[30,22,23,17,16,28,29],"class_list":["post-463","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-bai-viet-tam-ly","tag-ban-luan-ve-tinh-yeu","tag-mien-hai-dang","tag-mienhaidang","tag-tam-ly-hoc","tag-tamlyhoc","tag-tinh-yeu","tag-tinhyeu"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/463","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=463"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/463\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/464"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=463"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=463"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tamlymienhaidang.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=463"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}